About Me

One of the reasons I am so passionate about what I do is that I know that therapy can make a difference. It really can change your life! I spent so much of my life thinking that I was worthless and a failure, in addition to being paralysed by fear. I lived to please others, constantly striving for perfection to feel loved and worthwhile, whilst a critical voice inside my head told me constantly that I was not good enough. I put on a brave face to others, worried that if they knew how I really felt they would think less of me, think I was weak. I got to the point where I felt so fed up, stuck and trapped that I knew something had to change. I wanted more out of life.

Acceptance and commitment therapy, mindfulness and self-compassion have helped me to change my life. To recognise that I am human and being human is tough! That life can be hard and why on earth wouldn’t I feel rubbish at times?! That being human means experiencing both pleasant and unpleasant emotions – and it’s not a sign of weakness or that anything is wrong with me to experience the unpleasant, uncomfortable ones. It’s ok not to be ok. I’m now able to allow that fear, anger and sadness to be there and listen to what it’s telling me, and to use that to guide me towards what I need. I’ve learned to connect with what truly matters to me, deep in my heart, and to use that to discover who I want to be, and what I want to do in life.

I have let go of always striving to be perfect, and of always trying to prove myself to others and seeking their approval. I have embraced my relationship with myself and learned that I am enough. Just as I am. I have nothing to prove. I am me and that’s ok. Doing this allows me to be present in my own life and to enjoy all that I choose to have in it. To be free. To find a good balance between doing all the things that enrich my life and make it meaningful - doing the work I enjoy, being with nature, running, practising Qi gong, going on adventures and spending time with family and friends whom I love dearly.